Do the Opposite #72
Reinvent Yourself, Permission to Be Creative, Changing Your Identity, Common Myths about Minimalism
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One of the traps of procrastination is the desire to have all conditions perfectly aligned to start on a task. We think we need to get all of the information possible on the subject so we lose ourselves in research and it takes us forever to get back on track. We plan everything to the smallest detail and then cancel our plans as soon as something goes slightly off-track. Derek shares a super-simple, yet very effective technique to evade this trap.
It’s never too late to change direction. Multiple times in my life I’ve been told not to make big changes and just stick with whatever I did at the time. When I decided to switch from playing the violin and becoming a professional musician, when I went to Japan to study, when I decided to quit my studies of Japanese language (my University major at the time), when I went to study in Canada, when I wanted to switch from marketing to coding. I’m glad I did all these things ignoring the naysayers (there were of course also people who supported me).
This is your life and you’re the one who can make all the decisions. There are always circumstances that complicate things, but with enough drive and stubbornness, you can keep pushing forward and find ways to make your dreams into your day-to-day reality.
Your identity is not as static as you may think. You might consider yourself an avid reader, an addict, a person who always gets in fights, a person who stays active no matter how busy the schedule gets, and many other labels that make up your identity. These are the facts that you’ve decided on and accepted about yourself and they can be changed.
Consciously changing parts of your identity is the final key to making a habit into part of your life for as long as you live. It’s the difference between playing tug-of-war with yourself every time you see a donut (to eat or not to eat), and not even considering eating it in the first place, because your identity says: “I’m a person who doesn’t eat junk food”. Even if you slip up here and there but your identity has integrated the change, you will “snap back” to it, coming back to the positive change you’ve introduced.
We are all creative, we just need to allow ourselves to express it. Art helps us understand the things we’re going through in life, to put them in perspective and to heal our past wounds. It teaches us that we are all human and the events and circumstances that happen to us, had already happened to others. I’ll leave you alone with Ethan now so you can have a heart-to-heart.
Minimalism has gained a lot of popularity in the past decade, yet there are still many myths and misconceptions that surround it. Matt helps us clear them up. If you have friends or relatives who just don’t get minimalism, send them this video!
“Every day of our lives, we are on the verge of making those slight changes that would make all the difference.”
— Mignon McLaughlin
“If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.”
— Haruki Murakami
“Our enemy is not lack of preparation; it’s not the difficulty of the project, or the state of the marketplace or the emptiness of our bank account. The enemy is our chattering brain, which, if we give it so much as a nanosecond, will start producing excuses, alibis, transparent self-justifications and a million reasons why we can’t/shouldn’t/won’t do what we know we need to do.”
— Steven Pressfield
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